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"A revelatory teacher and writer,
La Veeta Ivory, "brings it home" in these pages with her own personal experiences. Bitch Mentality brings to us a striking reality in a great work of literature, unraveling the very fabric of promiscuity and "doggish" behaviors. This book is a timely, powerful, and enlightening inspirational message that is guaranteed to impact the lives of women for generations to come. Without question, it is a must read for those who never want to be used for Satan's pleasure again." --quote taken from Bitch Mentality book cover
"It should be in every household and in every bookstore across the globe. . ."
The book Bitch Mentality is a book I consider to be on the front-line of ministry. It is a book that goes beyond religion, and gets right to the root of the issue. Oftentimes we are reserved in our approach to sin, but Satan is real and strong in his tactics to steal, kill, and destroy everything that God has for the Body of Christ.
"The kingdom of heaven suffers violence, and the violent take it by force." This book goes beyond the depths of the normal and reaches the heart of the issue. It exposes the Enemy, and allows room for the Holy Spirit to lead us and guide us through the deliverance and healing process.
This book, I believe, is ordained by God and it should be in every household and in every bookstore across the globe. It is time for the church, the Body of Christ, to stand up, pray up, and speak up . . . instead of letting the world tell us to shut up.
God has called us to and commissioned us to let our light shine, not to stay in the four walls of what we call the church, and ignore issues that affect many lives from the pulpit to the last person on the last pew.
Bishop Stephen WardTha Remix Ministries
Toledo, OH
"The reason why we don't grow, and be blessed more, is because we don't want to know or hear truth!"
The blessing in knowing Evangelist La Veeta Ivory, a true woman of God that preaches, teaches, and lives the life she talks about in the unadulterated Gospel of Jesus Christ, is that she holds nothing back. She tells it like it is.
The thing I love about her is she's real, I like that. And I know that's why God is greatly blessing her in all of her endeavors. And her book--if we all just be honest, there's a lot of people in and out the church house with Bitch Mentality that's why some folks can't get with the title. But it's time for us to be honest with ourselves, repent to God, and stop doing it, because God knows anyway. The reason why we don't grow, and be blessed more, is because we don't want to know or hear truth!
Your Sis In Christ, ReneéDetroit, Michigan
"Words really can't explain it, all I can say is that it's a must read. . ."
La Veeta,
I have had the opportunity to read it and a couple of my co-workers have too. It's been a constant reference and a reminder during my everyday life. This book is truly an eye opener. It let's me know that if you made it through all of that, that I can make it through anything by trusting in my GOD. All I can say is that you are truly an inspiration in my life. My life is so much better after coming in contact with you and having Bitch Mentality to refer back to. My prayer life has become much stronger and I have had mountains moved everyday. Words really can't explain it, all I can say is that it's a must read!
Thank God for you and your guidance. You truly have a gift in writing. Please don't stop now!
KevaLa Vergne, TN
"God is truly using you as His servant to help us women who have been in an emotional mental prison. . ."
My Dear Sister in Christ, La Veeta
Thank you so much for your book, and the handwritten message! At first I almost thought someone had written a book about me. I am sure many women say that.
God is truly using you as His servant to help us women who have been in an emotional mental prison. I know God never abandons us. I have abandoned Him when I needed Him the most.
I thank Him for sending you into my life. Thank you! I am so very grateful to you for the time you have taken just for me, and your prayers!! Jesus showed true love and compassion when He came to this earth; and you follow His example!
Love,
Valerie NelsonSpokane, Washington
"It was very powerful, inspirational, and it truly hit home. . ."
To God be the glory!!!
La Veeta, I want you to know that your book, Bitch Mentality was truly a blessing to my mind, body, and soul. It was very powerful, inspirational and it truly hit home. While reading the book, tears started to roll down my face. I remember a time in my life when I had bitch mentality. Thank the Lord for setting me free--and keeping his arms of protection all around me.
The book was so down to earth and real, just what women need to read. Truth be told, many women suffer from bitch mentality--some saved, sanctified, and filled with the Holy Ghost. Bitch Mentality is a must read. The book was so powerful at times I would close my eyes and put my hand over my mouth and wave with the other hand and just say, "My, my, my, thank you Lord."
I don't want to say too much about the book, people have to read it for themselves. But I will say this: Kangaroos In Kindergarten touched my heart so--I was crying like a baby. I have to give you a "Say it, and keep it real" on that one.
La Veeta, words can't explain how this book has touched me so. I thank you for obeying God . I look forward to a conference on bitch mentality I'm claming it. Oh yeah, thanks for such a powerful prayer at the end of the book.
Love and Blessings,
LaTonia HarrellFounder of Sisters Building Sisters
Norfolk, Virginia
"You are a gifted writer!"
La Veeta,
Wow! Thanks for being transparent and real. It was one of the most refreshing reads I have had in a long time. I have been challenged to step up my own relationship with God by reading your book. The book gives hope, and it drives home a point I have been trying to make since day one...saints go through too. Praise God, we don't have to go it alone! THANK YOU so much for obeying God!!!!!
I also want to add that you are a gifted writer! Your vibrant words paint a canvas and are so colorful they transport the reader into your world. You did an AWESOME job!
Tashala K. Quick, President & Founder ofThe Virtuous Woman Book Club
McDonough, GA
"Your book was informative, inspirational, and educational..."
Hey Minister Ivory!
I wanted to let you know that I look at your book as a six chapter journey--a journey that led me through the pains and struggles of your life. Your experiences not only inform readers about what you've been through, but present a message of encouragement to women who have been through or are going through life's storms themselves.
You also present a life lesson for us younger sisters who are just starting to live our lives. You are giving us a heads up on what the devil can throw at us and I just want to thank you for this lesson. I now know to be on my guard against bitch mentality, and that I do not have to compromise myself--mind, body, or spirit--for ANYONE.
Your book was informative, inspirational, and educational. Thank you from the bottom of my heart Minister Ivory.
Love,
Alliyah, age 17
Uriah, Alabama
"It doesn't matter if you're a Christian, sinner, or just out there--you must get this exciting, enthralling, empowering book!"
If you or someone you know has ever been used, mistreated, made to feel like something less than a person, or just plain "dogged out," then you need to read Bitch Mentality. If you've ever used others or been used, read Bitch Mentality.
This outstanding book gives you so much more insight into these ideas/situations/concepts/problems that you'll not want to put it down. I'm a born-again Christian, baptized and filled with the Holy Ghost, brought up in church since the day I was born almost 40 years ago. However, it doesn't matter if you're a Christian, sinner, or just out there--you must get this exciting, enthralling, empowering book!
Angela TaylorClinton Township, Michigan
"I just wanted to let you know that the book is awesome. . ."
Hi La Veeta,
I just wanted to let you know that I purchased the book and it has inspired me so much and lifted my spirit. It seems as if everything that you had gone through in the book, I was or went through the same thing. The only thing is that I have never been married. I just wanted to let you know that the book is awesome. And I will be telling a lot of my friends about the book to purchase it. And I just ask that you would keep me in your prayers, overcoming my past relationship has not been an easy task.
Thanks,
ShalissaMemphis, TN
"Thanks for Keeping it Real. . ."
Sister La Veeta,
You are truly a blessing to me. When I read your book I couldn't get with it at first (just keeping it real.) Then God began to minister to me on the things you had wrote. I began to realize the "mentality" that I had been dealing with.
Why did I always attract certain type of men? Why did I get in relationships that were not healthy for me? And why did I think I had it "going on" because these men were after me?
Your book helped me to realize the scent that I was giving off. It wasn't about me at all. It was all about what they could get from me. It was the devil tearing down my self-esteem so that I would be no good when the Lord got ready for me. I now know that I am a Woman of God. I know what my body was made for; and I know Who it was made for. I thank God that he saved me and that he allowed me to keep enough self-esteem so that when He came to save me I could reach down and grab the bit I had, and He built me up from that.
This may not make sense to some, but read the book and allow God to show you what's in you and deliver you from the dog mentality and cleanse you from the heated scent that you are exuding. I tell women, especially single women, just because he is after you does not mean you got it going on--sometimes it means you are giving off a "scent" that's real strong.
Again I thank you my sister, because not only with the book but you being in my life has helped me tremendously. Thanks for keeping it real with me on a personal level and thanks for being there for me and pushing me to be the Woman of God He is calling me to be.
JoAnn WebsterDetroit, MI
"I guess I expected something different. . ."
Unfortunately the book really did not help me. I have never slept with anyone for money. I actually was married and then had my two children, and did it in the order that God ordains us to do. I guess I expected something different; and, honestly it did not really help me at all.
Tracy WilliamsLos Angeles, CA
"It has helped me..."
Hi, Ms. Ivory
I read it the very day I received it. And I must say I am so happy that a friend of mine stumbled across a website that was promoting your book. It has helped me realize why I had a bad attitude toward others, as well as how I felt about myself. I will continue to share it with others and promote your book to all I know.
May God continue to bless you in all your future endeavors.
Your Sister in Christ,
Jacqueline GreenJeffersonville, IN
"Wow!"
I have just one word for this book: "Wow!" If I had read Bitch Mentality when I was growing up I wouldn't have made as many mistakes as I did in choosing and attracting the wrong men. Reading this book has taught me a whole lot. And I think every woman would benefit from this book in some way.
Jacqueline R. GeorgeDetroit, Michigan
"This book will definitely open your eyes . . ."
The description of sin cannot be watered down and dismissed. It is not something we can run or hide from, only face. This book will definitely open your eyes to just one of the many faces of evil we all have encountered in some way in some place in our own lives. Sometimes we do indeed need a slap in the face to wake us up. Be blessed by the words you read in this book.
Sincerely,
Evangelist Jackie OwnsbyAthens, Tennessee
"It is through your transparency, honesty, openness, and plain realness that sisters will learn their self-worth. . ."
I just had to take a minute to let you know how I thoroughly enjoyed Bitch Mentality. I started reading it on the plane to California, and it was so good that I finished it before I even got there!! Oh, the stares of confusion I received throughout the airports as in one hand I carried my Bible, and in the other your delightful book Bitch Mentality.
Thank you, my darling sister, for being so transparent. It is through your transparency, honesty, openness, and plain realness that sisters will learn their self-worth. We learn that we do not have to prostitute ourselves to get what we want/need in life. We need but One thing. . . "that good part" . . . that shall never be taken away from us as we sit at the feet of our Savior lingering on His every word.
I love you girl!
Yo' babysis, MimiUriah, Alabama
"Through this book, God is using you to snatch us all out of the powerful grip of bitch mentality! ..."
Hey La Veeta,
As I begin my walk with God in 2007, you are definitely at the top of my list of people that I am most grateful for. Meeting you in 2006 has changed my life in a very positive way! I am so much closer to God as a result of your influence in my life. Your book Bitch Mentality is one of the major ways God has used you to change my life!
Over ten years ago, I made a vow to The Lord that I would stop being sexually active and that I would save myself until he crossed my path with the man that I'm to marry. So, I have been living a celibate life for over 10 years, but what I discovered about myself in reading your book, is that even though I haven't been sexually active in all this time, I still had bitch mentality!
God began to show me that I had bitch mentality because there were some attitudes and some mindsets regarding myself and men that he needed to purge out of me before he could take me higher in Him. (Just call me Rapunzel).
After getting real with myself and getting real with God...after allowing Him to show me and heal me of the "Bitch Mentality" that had been lying dormant within me, I can honestly say that I am "delivered from the power of the dog!"
Also, before reading Bitch Mentality I had never been able to fast. I had attempted to fast many, many, times but never followed through on any fast that I had begun. While reading your book, scales began to fall from my eyes regarding fasting and I made a connection with God and fasting that I had never made before...and the day after completing "Bitch Mentality," for the first time in my walk with God, I completed a fast!
My mother is a woman who has had a very hard life. She became a domestic violence victim at the age of 15, ended up marrying her abuser and having three sons with him before meeting my father and having me. Though she was only 15 when this abuse began, no one helped her. No one stood up for or protected her from her abuser. As a result of this abuse and other traumatic things that happened in her life, my mother has battled addictions, nervous breakdowns, mental illness and a life filled with heartache, abuse and disappointment.
Well, as I was wrapping her Christmas present at the last minute early Christmas morning, the Holy Ghost began to urge me to include my newly purchased copy of Bitch Mentality with her gift. At first I dismissed it and told myself that I would order her a copy later. But the urging just would not go away, so I obeyed and included Bitch Mentality in her gift.
One day later on December 26, 2006, I received a voicemail message from my mother saying, "I no longer have Bitch Mentality girl! Call me so I can tell you about it!" After receiving the message I hurriedly called her and I could instantly tell that there was something different about her. First of all, in all of her years of living, before reading Bitch Mentality, my mother had never completed a book. She has started reading many books, but never finished them.
Once she picked up Bitch Mentality on Christmas night, she could not put it down! She read until 4 in the morning, and the only reason she put it down then is because her eyes became too heavy. But as soon as she awakened the next morning, she picked up where she left off, and was done with the book by that afternoon.
Secondly, my mother has smoked for over 36 years and has struggled so many times with trying to quit. She has also been in a relationship for over 20 years with a man who still hasn't "been able" to finalize his divorce from his estranged wife, along with several other deep issues that he has. But, while reading Bitch Mentality my mother said she began to hear the voice of God again (which she hadn't heard in a long time).
God started speaking to her and challenging her regarding these areas in her life. She began to realize that it was because she had bitch mentality that she'd allowed these things to go on for so long. She immediately threw her pack of cigarrettes away! Though she's still battling this addiction, after reading your story, she says that she knows God is delivering her from the hold that cigarettes as well as the hold that this relationship has had on her for years!
She wants you to know that no author, no evangelist has impacted her life the way that your book has. She had completely written her life story several years ago, but it got displaced during a very trying time in her life. I have tried to encourage her many times to begin again, but she always said that she just couldn't do it, that it would just be too hard. But as a result of reading Bitch Mentality my mother has decided to begin again. She is now rewriting her life story, because of your influence on her life!
Thank you so much La Veeta, for telling your story! Whether it's people like my mother who obviously have bitch mentality or whether it's people like me, who didn't even know they have it... Through this book, God is using you to snatch us all out of the powerful grip of bitch mentality! No one who reads this book will ever be the same!!
D. Knowles & S. HeardMemphis, TN
"I can't do this anymore!"
Chapter 1: Why This?
Have you hit rock bottom? Are you contemplating suicide? Meet a woman who lived her worst nightmare, and saw herself for the first time in the debris of a shattered life.
Why This? is the beginning of a life changing experience.
Chapter 2: Bitch Mentality
What is bitch mentality? This chapter answers that very question, by unveiling the paralyzing spirit behind sexual promiscuity and the damaging affects it has on the productivity and mental well-being of women.
Chapter 3: Kangaroos in Kindergarten
Overcome a troubled past, depression, and feelings of defeat, inadequacy, hopelessness. In this chapter you will learn how to realistically forgive those that have deeply hurt you. An explosive chapter on emotional healing.
Chapter 4: Weight for What?
Got an appetite for danger? Does your flesh crave the dog biscuits that Satan dangles in your face? Come from under a weight of oppression. This chapter will tell you how.
Chapter 5: Rapunzel Don't Do It
Are you looking for true love? Learn the three phases in life when a woman is most susceptible to the "Rapunzel Syndrome," and how self-defeating behaviors will keep her chained and bound on an emotional roller coaster, never knowing or experiencing the total fulfillment of being in the divine will of God in each season of her life.
Chapter 6: Divorce Doubt
Has Doubt stripped you of hope, shot your self-esteem, stabbed your peace of mind, and blocked your vision for a better future? Learn to believe again. Defintely the chapter to read if you want to be empowered.
Here's the Introduction
by La Veeta Ivory
I wrote this book because I wanted real answers to be available for the next woman who finds herself "dog tired" and suicidal. I knew there would be a void in my life until I answered her question: "Where did I go wrong?" There's a burden on my heart for her, because the truth of the matter is people don't have a lot of sympathy for women with bitch mentality. Nobody respects a lewd female, whether she's the anointed choir director who's screwing the pastor and his brother or the ditsy broad who's giving blowjobs in the boy's locker room. She needs to be delivered from the power of the dog.
I'm thinking back to when I was a little girl how my grandmama use to say, "A dog is the lowest thang you can call a person. Don't never call nobody a dog." Mama meant well, I'm sure. But David asked the Lord to deliver his soul from the power of the dog (Psalm 22:20). He didn't know a better way to describe his enemy and I can't think of a better way to describe your flesh's enemy either: lust is an unclean spirit that I call "bitch mentality." This foul spirit causes women to think and behave like female dogs.
Year in and year out, I counsel broken women with open wounds inflicted by promiscuity. I know their constant struggles because I once wore the same tear-rusted shackles of despair and helplessness. But today, I know what it is to run this Christian race without a spiked-collar and leash and truly be able to say, "The prince of this world cometh, and hath nothing in me." (John 14:30 KJV) It's my prayer that, after reading Bitch Mentality, you will be "transformed by the renewing of your mind." (Romans 12:2 KJV)